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One Year Old Parent

I cannot believe we are a year old now! My daughter and me, as a mother. What an year it has been!

Starting with self-doubts and a roller-coaster ride of hormones to somehow learning the trick of the trade, I have come a long way.

I found myself a place among a group of amazing mothers here in Coimbatore. They have been my support system throughout. I will be eternally thankful to them.



I do what I think is best for my baby. Babywearing, cloth diapering, breastfeeding and letting my child feed herself. All the above said concepts didnt come easy, I had to explain a thousand times and do my research to get people around me to accept what I do.

Do not let the society dictate your parenting style. You are the parent and you are supposed to do the parenting not the society. The "society" will be there to tell you that you are not producing enough milk for the baby, cloth diapers are bulky, babywearing will make the baby dependent on you and a self-feeding baby does not eat enough. Duh!

The only person you are supposed to listen to is your baby. Your motherly instincts will take over and you will do a great job at bringing up a happy baby.

I had the good-luck of finding a group of like minded mothers to keep me sane. I really would have gone mad if I had not. I am trying to help as many new mothers as I can, nobody should be left alone to fight this fight.

Parenting is not easy. Children dont come with an instruction manual. You learn and unlearn on the job. You will never be the same person that you were.

To the person that changed my life for good, my daughter, I wish you all the best things in the world my darling! Let's grow together.

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